Coming to My Senses

So just the other day I was talking to my best friend about lack of communication from guys that we date. I was telling her that they don't realize how much time they give us to think when they disappear and don't reach out to us for days. Trust me, we have a lot of time to process things!

Now, you are probably saying that it also gives us time to over analyze things as well, and this is true. 

However, if the lines of communication were open, we would have a crystal clear picture of how the guy feels, what he's thinking and won't be left guessing.

The time that the guy disappears also gives us time to come to our senses.

We know that nothing short of bodily injury, and sometimes even that, will keep a man from contacting a woman he is truly interested in. 

There aren't enough blogs,  vlogs, and everything in between, from men themselves, verifying that. 

But damn all that; it's clear!

It's not rocket science,  chemistry or geometry. It's rather simple; when he wants to be in touch with you he will! 

Now, ladies,  a lot of you are guilty of letting them get missing and then going for their excuses when they pop back up.

I am guilty of this. 

There comes a time on your life,  when you reach a certain age,  where that's not acceptable.

I'm 42. I don't date ANYONE who is not fully aware that communication is key in any developing or developed relationship. Whether they take heed to that determines if they are allowed to stay in my space.

I don't care how much I like you,  if you make excuse after excuse for not communicating, I am gone. 

The thing about that is, you're communicating with SOMEONE,  it's just not me!

I'm cool with not being "the one". I'm not cool with a man not being 100 about me not being the one! 

Building up false ass hope with sporadic texts doesn't work for very long. As I stated, we come to our senses in your absence. 

I'm not perfect  but I'm a dope ass chick.

You're probably saying, "If you're so dope,  why are you single?"

Honestly, I wish I knew. 

You can gather by my past blogs though,  I haven't met any stellar gentleman that I ran off with my bluntness and my straight forward, Aries personality. I just haven't met any stellar gentlemen AT ALL! 

I have faith that they are still out there so I keep trying.  

I need to branch out in where I am meeting them however (clearly,  online dating is a huge failure).

I am on Meet Up but as confident and outgoing as I am,  I haven't mustered up the courage to go to one. I have valid excuses at the moment (a wrecked car and an injured right leg are pretty good reasons). 

My recent car accident and injury knocked some sense into me about the men in my midst. When times like this are upon you,  you see who is there for you when you need them mentally, emotionally and physically. 

No excuse will validate someone not at least communicating to see if you're still breathing at a time like that! 

I was literally run over by my car and when I tell you not one man in my midst was there for me mentally,  emotionally or phsycially, I do not exaggerate!

I was off for a week and could barely walk and I was isolated and alone. Oh,  add to that,  I don't have a legally driveable car so THAT was when I needed the most help I EVER needed. 

It gave me time to think,  it gave me time to process and it have me time to reevaluate.

Why isn't anyone calling to ask how I really feel?  Do they realize I could have died? Do they realize I'm shaken to my core? Do they realize how painful it is for a 2 ton vehicle to run over your body? Do they realize I just lost my ONLY means of transportation and I have a kid I am a single mom to?

Do they realize how expensive Uber and car rentals are? 

So many question went through my mind. 

While it's not their responsiblity, it's mine, there is also knowing that when someone cares about you,  they help when they can. Rather that be mentally,  emotionally,  financially or physically,  they do what they can because they care and they want you to know it beyond a shadow of a doubt.

It opened up so many revelations for me. I just saw the truth for what it is even though I asked for the truth straight out. 

It put so many things into perspective for me.

I realized that I had clouded vision, I realized I wasn't thinking clearly and most importantly it made me come to my senses. 

The Stock Market

Fellas, today we are gonna discuss how your stock drops with women! 

I am pretty sure this will be pegged as yet another man bashing post but who cares? 

I will ALWAYS give it to you straight! That's who I am and my blog is based on my life and how I view it. In a nutshell, fuck your opinions because I speak FACTS!

A lot of you look so good on paper! Hell, a lot of you look good period ( I won't pretend looks haven't kept some dudes around for me before as it has with many other women). However, that holds about a much weight as said paper, when it really counts.

You know what makes you lose value with us, guys?

THE LIES!

I really can't say this enough. I am seeing that now that I am back in the dating game, men are STILL lying about their intentions.

I am thinking because I am older and wiser that surely the men I encounter will be too. They will be more stable financially, have a blossoming career and be ready to be in ONE solid, stable relationship.

My friends and acquaintances are looking for the same thing. We are that, so we look for that. We look for someone we are equally yoked with. We are getting everything BUT!

It never made sense to me for a person to pretend they have it all together and present one person to you when they are another.

You guys have GOT to stop sending your representatives to meet us and then showing up with the real you later! It's just not fair!

I don't want you talking about how you meet us with long hair and it's weave or pretty nails and it's acrylics or a slim waist and it's a waist shaper, because it's totally NOT the same thing! That is the physical! 
If you want to go there we can though.

We meet you with six packs,  fresh hair cuts, casket sharp and smelling like a dream and three months down the line your always in sweats or shorts, Nike sandals with socks and smelling like day old sweat!

You're standing next to us mean mugging the dude who looks like you did when we met you cuz he can't believe YOU bagged one of US!

By the way, he's well past the stage of lying and knows exactly what he wants, he is the ONLY person representing himself and he's ready to scoop us up because he knows a good investment when he sees one.
Marinate on THAT!

Is it sinking in yet? No? Allow me to continue...

You know damn well that you aren't ready to take us home to your mom's so stop trying to get in good with the fam (especially to a child of a single mother) just to have sex! That's only going to push you to the top of the douche pool.

Trust the dating world in your area is smaller than you  think and people talk. It's gonna catch up to you! That's pretty desperate and saying shit like, "You can't unfuck me!" Takes major points off..and makes you a pathological liar!

Your homies laugh but when you wanna holla at his sister who just finished grad school and moved back locally (you know the one whose body milk did really good), guess who's NOT in her future husband pool? You think he'd EVER let YOU near HER?

You guys also seem to forget that the older WE get, the older YOU get. By the time you get prepared to find the one, the next generation of men, who are smarter, more ambitious, more mature, more virile (yeah, I mean his stamina is on point) and into US.

See, we are bonds that have increased in face value and have matured, and they want to invest. They set up coupon dates from the gate and know we are worth far more than out issue price. And you guys are like pyramid schemes. You recruit all these women who invest in you with the promise of a high return only to have it all come crumbling down because you're a fraud! 
Then you will be the first to say, "I can't find a good woman!"

Stop frontin'! There's no future in it! Be successful no matter your position in life. If you're unhappy, change it! There is such thing as as speaking things into existence HOWEVER, you can't say you own your own business, like a barbershop for example and you're renting a chair! THAT'S A LIE! We get so sick of you all saying you are a boss when you're not. Bosses don't have to tell people, you can see it. Unless you're Rick Ross, stop chanting about how much of a boss you are! We know you're lying!

This post isn't long enough to cover all the variables in the treachery of the lies and the cut throat ways you use to get to the top of the dating world. I don't have that kind of time. I'm busy sifting through the bull to get to the real.

You are not very good at playing the market. Not at all. You are a bad investment, you never mature and your face value...well, you have none.

So, remember that all the time you spend will you take risks with lying, we have stock options just like you do. We are doing our research, we're shopping around and looking for a better broker than YOU!

Believe me, there is always one that's high yielding (we reap great benefits), has a fixed rate (remember my consistency post? Yeah...that part!) And the return on our investment is 100 times greater than YOURS!

"The main purpose of the stock market is to make fools of as many men as possible."

Bernard Baruch

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Transcripts in Truth

I am not one for drama, much less public drama but sometimes you

just GOTTA get on people's level when they don't understand

anything except ignorance.

Let me just explain how all this ignorance jumped off.

At this point in my life, I have low tolerance for fuckery and bullshit.

So, I am opting to ignore things and people, my baby daddy included, because

I have sicknesses in my family and with myself, I work and I am a single

mother. I have a LOT on my plate and I jus cannot devoe energy to

foolishness.

I have aYoutube Vlog and I am VERY expressive on it. I WILL, DO,

and HAVE talked

about the ratchet ass Negro that is my baby daddy. However, I don't

center my

vids around him. He is not the center of my life, never has been and

never will

be so why would I devote my vlogs to him? You can see for yourself.

Here is my channel link: http://www.youtube.com/user/MiamiBBWDyme

Well, he saw them, which I don't give two fucks, that he did just for

the record and the truth hurt! He is ANGRY! He lashed out on my

Facebook wall, which I deleted. When I went to go to his page to

message him to speak to me privately, I was greeted with this:

My Ratchet Ass Baby Daddy (He's far from a father so he is not MY

daughter's father! He gets the ghetto hood title that all deadbeats like

him deserve!:

HOW I REALLY FEEL IS FUCK MY BABY MAM SHE WONT LET ME SEE MY

DAMN BABY WHY CUZ I DONT WANT HER ASS WTF GET REAL AND

CHILD SUPPORT YOU THINK SOME FUCKING GOVERMENT MOTHA

FUCKERS GONE FORCE ME TO

DO SOME SHIT HELL NO I DONT NEED NO ONE TO FORCE ME TO BE A

DAMN MAN TYPICAL SHIT WITH BITTER BITCHES I WANNA SEE AND

BE AROUND MY DAUGHTER NOT YOU DAMN I THOUGHT OLDERS

BITCHES SUPPOSE TO BE MORE MATURE AINT YOU 38 OR SOME SHIT

You like this. (I liked the status cuz I was about to go IN!)

Anonymus: Lol wow, well atleast if you do pay child support you have a right

to see your baby she can not deny you that right unless it is established

in court that you have a no visitation order. just go to court and get your

rights boo j/s

4 hours ago · Like · 1 person

Anonymus Ass Thirsty Broad: get wit a real bitch like me....u remember them

dorm days...lol but on some g shit take her ass to court....bump that extra.....

Yours Truly: YOU ARE A FUCKING BLACK ASS LIE! I HAVE NEVER EVER

DENIED YOU A RIGHT TO SEE MY CHILD! YOU HAVENT' CALLED TO EVEN

SEE IF THIS CHILD IS BREATHING, SHE IS 2 AND YOU DID SOME THING

FOR HER ONCE IN 24 MONTHS, YOU LIED AND SAID YOU WERE MARRIED

AND YOU WERE GONNA COME GET HER AND NEVER DID, YOU HAVEN'T

CALLED SINCE MARCH BUT SEND BULLSHIT ASS MESSAGES LIKE SHE CAN

READ! SHE HAS DAYCARE BILLS YOU DONVT HELP WITH, FOOD BILLS,

YOU DON'T PAY, WHEN SHE NEEDS CLOTHES, SHOES, PAMPERS, BATH

SOAP, TOYS...I PROVIDE IT ALL! YOU DO NOTHING BUT LIE ABOUT WHAT

YOU ARE GONNA DO, LIE ABOUT WHAT YOU HAVE DONE SO THESE CHICK

WILL BE IMPRESSED, MIOVE AROUND TO AVOID CHILD SUPPORT AND

IGNORE YOUR CHILD LIKE SHE AIN'T SHIT! SO YOU WANNA KNOW HOW I

FEEL ABOUT MY BABY DADDY? FUCK YOU AND THE DICK YOU RODE IN

HERE ON!

3 hours ago · Like · 2 people

Yours Truly: And to anyone wanting to know whats really going on..feel free to

jump in my inbox..its 3 sides to every story...his, hers and the fucking TRUTH

3 hours ago · Like · 1 person

Yours Truly: And stop the lying telling folks I wanna get with you and I want

you around me! Lies, lies, lies! I have not been with you since December of

2008 and damn sure have zero interest in you. So don't front ike its more than

wtf it is!!!

A REAL Man: Dayumm....man up Ryan. #notcool

2 hours ago · Like · 2 people

A Clueless Cosigner: Wow cuz just file for jointly then you can see ur daughter

2 hours ago · Like

Yours Truly: He has had 2 years to file for joint custody. How can you file for a

child when you NEVER SEEN HER? I haven't moved and my home number is

the same.

52 minutes ago · Like · 1 person

Yours Truly: And I didn't just run and tell the government to put his ass on

shit..lie number 8523! I gave him ample time to show he was gonna do for her

and in 2 years he hasn't! The paternity test has been taken...99.98 if I am not

mistaken and that was well over a year ago...and what have you done? When

did you EVER come try and see her? Never ever not neverrrrr....I have been

fair....I. have been patient and I have been nice! All I get is this same

ignorance from you time and again. But at least you are consistent with that!

And my daughter is not being raised to hate you! She is 2! She doesn't know

what hate is!

Hell, I don't even hate you...you obviously hate yourself enough for all of

us!

This is your cross to bear! Own up to your shit and stop pointing fingers! Stop

tryna validate yourself thorough women and be a man of your own! And most

of all don't blame me for your constant fuck ups! You are stopping you from

seeing your daughter...not me!

41 minutes ago · Like · 1 person

A Female Who Sees The Light: Well damn Ryan i felt bad for ya like ya baby

mamawas just trippin. no sympothy here brah cause my fuck ass baby actin

stupid too. get ya shit right pimpin and grow up. dont be a statistic where

another man can take care of your kid better than you.

36 minutes ago · Like · 1 person

Yours Truly: Oh I can be a bitch..thats no doubt but if I am provoked. I am not

a bitter sister tryna keep her child from her father because I want him. That is

ignorant and only hurts her and she matters to me more than anyone on this

planet! I don't want Ryan and he doesn't want me. We both moved on ages ago.

That bitter bitch shit he is saying is a huge lie! LIEEEEE!!!

25 minutes ago · Like

After this, he promptly deleted my comments, blocked me from his page and

proceeded to tell these lies:

My Ratchet Ass Baby Daddy (He's far from a father so he is notMY daughter's father! He gets the ghetto hood title that all deadbeats like him deserve!: i hate

that bitch i hate that bitch now i am lying and i am wrong its a damn reason I

AINT SEEN MY BABY YO ASS WONT LET ME AND U WANNA LIE BOUT THE SHIT

AMZING THIS BITCH IS BEFORE GOD CALL ME HOME I HOPE I SEE MY

DAUGHTER AND I CANT CALL U WITH NO NUMBER DUMB ASS YOU HAD MY

NUMBER U STARTED THEM 3AM DUMB PHONE CALLS THAT BITTER BITCHES

MAKE FOR NO REASON REMEMBER .........IN CLOSING I AM DONE WITH THIS

SITUATION AND GOING HAM ON YOUTUBE THANKS KEEP BASHING MY NAME

DUMB ASS!

Another Thirsty Broad TOTALLY Unaware of the TRUTH: Damn that is messed up some females just don't get it.. If you paying child support my

cant you see your kid??? they could fix that mann. fucked up

Nothing this liar says will EVER be able to discredit me! Like...EVER! I will talk

about my struggles as a single mother on ANY forum I damn well please! I can

screenshot phone records to show he doesn't call and I don't EVER call him! He is

not interested in my child unless its to save face for one of his bitches but the

reality is HE DOESN'T LOVE OR GIVE A FUCK ABOUT MY CHILD! I can also

screenshot my empty child support account that show NO payments have ever

been made. I can screenshot receipts to show all the needs my child has are

drafted from MY account! I can prove all I have done to be an excellent mother

financially, mentally, physically, and especially emotionally, but I be he can't

prove anything he has EVER done! I am not sugarcoating shit for ANYONE! Fuck

you if you think otherwise! Until you come and pay a bill here, your words don't

mean a fucking thing to me! And anyone who has an issue with me expressing how

I feel can get the fuck on!