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Take Care of YOUR House!

*Shaking my damn head* Yeah, its been a hot minute since I blogged but I have some shit to get off my chest that has been brewing! Nosy ass people and their simple ass opinions work my FUCKING nerves!

People are ALWAYS criticizing, commenting and giving UNSOLICITED, UNWANTED advice to others but you really should TAKE CARE OF YOUR HOUSE! It ALWAYS something that we can improve about our lives so NONE of us have the room to ALWAYS have something to say about someone else. No one I know, including my very own family, has their house completely in order. And I don't mean cleaning up literally because I see first hand that means NOTHING under the surface! Its much deeper than the surface!

We all do the best we can and yes, we can always do better. We should not be content when we have more potential than what we are settling for. But damn if I look down my nose at others and DARE say it to them if I DO! Who the hell do I think I am? My OWN house is NOT in order!

We all move at our own paces. That doesn't make anyone better than the other. We make decisions we feel are best for ourselves and our children, families, etc.. If our decisions don't negatively affect someone else and theirs don't affect ours we need to keep moving in the right direction.

Its when we judge because we think we know, we don't ask questions, we listen to negativity without THINKING or QUESTIONING it, we fault EVERYONE else for our setbacks, we don't make sacrifices and do things we don't want to, to get what we HAVE to, is when we throw our shit and EVERYONE else's out of whack! PEOPLE WHO LIVE IN GLASS HOUSES DON'T THROW STONES! TAKE CARE OF YOUR HOUSE!

How are your relationships in your life? Are they poor? If so, why? Are you too judgmental? Do you listen before you speak? Do you THINK before you speak? Do you assume? Do you hold grudges? Are you mean, spiteful, or prone to say things you shouldn't? Do you throw past mistakes in people's faces? If you do any of the above, turn the tables, place your selfish ass in their shoes..how does it feel? How would you feel if someone ran up in your house every time something happened before you can get it back organized and started trying to place things where you don't keep them or trying to tell you the place you have it isn't good enough? What would you do? I am sure you would kick them the hell out right? And so would I! Because you can take care of your own house!

We may need help and yes, we can get outside help but unless you ask for it, they should assume YOU DON'T NEED IT! If it is something you can control that you are getting help with and its setting people back, STEP IT UP! It may not happen immediately but after a while it will improve and you will get where you should be but people need to let you do that! But when you don't make that effort, you fail yourself and that's YOUR problem! You can't burden the world because its up to you to TAKE CARE OF YOUR HOUSE!

Now if you all will excuse me, I am going back to my proverbial housekeeping..I see a few spots I missed!

Little Girl Lost

I HATE when I get like this! Well, in actuality, I have been like this for a while, hence me not blogging much. I am super unsure WHERE my life is taking me right now. Completely. Now please don't call me a heathen, or judge me when I say what I am about to say; I haven't prayed over this situation at all recently. It's not that I have lost faith in God or anything but he HAS to be working on me because I am completely LOST! I know its not right to question him but when I look at how things go well for people who don't deserve it and I do right and work hard and come up empty, I have to wonder. I am just being honest. I suppose when I use the brain he blessed me with and get back in school like I have been talking about for AGES, I will have some sense of direction. But there are so many aspects of my life I feel are completely blank. Like my love life and wanting companionship leading to marriage, or my career (which ties back into school), me wanting to move back to my home to Miami, AND me wanting to have myself financially set for mine and my daughter's sake (again, this ties back to school).
I have to find myself. No, I am not going on some crazy ass journey to find myself and me cutting my hair had nothing to do with that AT ALL! Remember, I am NOT my hair! I blogged about that here before. But it isn't about me anymore; I have someone else who depends on me and I need to make sure her life is smooth and easy like my parents did for me when they had to care for me.
I have talents I have talked about for ages, some of you have seen suttle glimpses of them. Some of you all have seen full glimpses of them. However you all should have gathered by now that I am a writer.
Writing has been in me since I could remember. At the age of 12 I was writing raps and poetry. So this skill has been being honed for decades. But here it comes back to me being lost. I have drive and ambition and I sit on it just as I do my writing talents. So, in essence, its not doing me a lick of good! And I need to step up, grow up, and show up!
Yes, we all say, we are grown and technically we are, but I am woman enough to say I need to grow up, See, growing and growing up are two totally different things. And until I can be where I want in life, where I personally feel I should be, and doing EXACTLY what I am destined to do I have not grown up.
Due to some bad personal choices, I have stunted my growth. But I have no one to blame for MY bad choices. Some HUGE blessings have come out of those choices, such as my beautiful child!
But its time to take charge and my my life how I want it to be. Feeling sorry for myself is not the answer anymore. Being angry at myself is not it either. Doing what I think I should do but what I dream of doing, is my choice to make. And I am making that choice. When I want to do something I put my mind to it and I accomplish a lot. And that had never failed me in the past. And I shall do it again. I have very important reasons to do so.
I am going to pack a cooler, map out my route and drive to my destiny. I am not going to get lost this time..because I am found!

Men Find Plenty to Love in Big, Beautiful Women

Dear Abby

Jan. 21, 2009

MEN FIND PLENTY TO LOVE IN BIG, BEAUTIFUL WOMEN

DEAR ABBY: "Happy Being Me in Massachusetts" (Nov. 20) is a
large girl whose mother told her "heavy women are not desir-
able." Well, I was a size 18/20 and weighed more than 200
pounds when I met my husband while out with mutual friends.
He's good-looking, smart, witty, affectionate and passionate.
He's everything a woman looks for in a life partner.

He had never dated a plus-size woman before, but he was
smitten from the moment he saw me, and pursued me from the
start because he thought I have a beautiful face and a great
personality. We have one child and another on the way, and
he finds me as appealing now as he did the night we met.

No woman should ever "settle" for a partner, and "Happy"
should not do so just because her mother thinks she's "too
heavy." That mother is trying to pass her low self-esteem
issues along to her daughter, and I hope "Happy" is savvy
enough to brush it off. Big girls can be sexy, too, because
there's nothing sexier than confidence.
-- MICHELLE IN MICHIGAN

DEAR MICHELLE: The letters of encouragement in support of
"Happy" have far outweighed her mother's negative stance.
Read on:

DEAR ABBY: "Happy Being Me" needs to know that there are
men like me who prefer plus-size women. My wife weighs 275
pounds, and I think she's gorgeous. "Happy" just needs to
put herself out there, and one of us will find her.
-- HAPPY WITH MY LARGE LADY

DEAR ABBY: I met my first husband when I wore a much smaller
size. As the years went on, my size increased. He ended up
leaving me for a smaller girl.

After our split, I moved home and the first words out of my
mother's mouth were, "You need to work on yourself because
you're not going to find someone new looking like you do."
It was extremely hurtful, but beyond that, it was WRONG.

Less than a year after my divorce, I was in a healthy re-
lationship with a man who loved me for myself. We married,
have a baby and are living happily ever after. The size of
my jeans has never mattered to my hubby -- only the size of
my heart.
-- BIG JEANS, BIGGER HEART

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DEAR ABBY: In the past, I admit I was one of those men who
wouldn't look twice at a large girl. Then I met my wife. She
wasn't exactly petite, but it didn't matter. She truly is
the girl of my dreams.

We have both gained some weight over the years, but size
really doesn't matter. "Happy's" mother is wrong. The right
woman can always find the right man.
-- LUCKY MAN IN ALBUQUERQUE

DEAR ABBY: I attend dances every month that support women of
size. I met my dream man at one of them a few months ago. He
is kind, supportive, handsome and loves my body. (And I love
his!)

Because society says that a larger woman isn't attractive
doesn't mean EVERYONE thinks so. When I started going to
functions for plus-sized women at the age of 26, I found a
whole new world where I was accepted and welcomed.

"Happy" should get on to her Web browser and look for "Big
Beautiful Women" groups in her area. Love is out there --
for ALL body types.
-- LARGE AND IN LOVE

DEAR ABBY: My mother, who is big, wonderful and loving, made
me appreciate large women. My wife was small in high school
and "blossomed" later. I love my "big gal wife" and support
her in every way possible. If she wants to change her appear-
ance, then I want her to do it for herself. And if she's
happy the way she is, I'm OK with that, too. "Happy Being Me"
just needs to be confident in her own skin and she will find
"Mr. Right," not "Mr. Right Now."
-- BRIAN IN WISCONSIN