Inner-resting ...this came from a male.
*raises hands in surrender*
Don't shoot the messenger, fellas! I am only quoting one of YOUR counterparts. I do, however, completely agree.
As always, I was discussing things with one of my best friends, who is also dating, and this was something we both stated we despised. She told me to tell y'all, "What she said!" In reference to this posting since she's agreeing with me.
If there is one things women in any relationship hate is inconsistency! Let us define it for those who know not what they do.
inconsistency
noun, plural inconsistencies for 2.
What stands out so much to me here is inconsistent action. Therein lies the problem! Inconsistency is hands down thee number one issue a lot of women I have spoken to about dating have complaints about! It goes hand in hand with the complaint about the art of conversation being lost.
I, for one cannot stand it when a man shifts gears back and forth. It makes me hesitant to take them seriously, hesitant to trust them and most certainly hesitant to commit to them. No woman walking this Earth has ever jumped to say she wants to hubby up an inconsistent man. Not one.
An inconsistent man speaks multitudes about other issues in his life.
He most definitely runs the risk of being inconsistent in other areas of importance.
For example, an inconsistent man poses a threat of being the type of man who can't consistently keep a job, pay the bills or keep food on the table.
These are basic everyday things in life.
A man who is not consistent in how he communicates or how frequently he communicates is another sore spot. Sporadic calls, random texts, or an lol under our pics doesn't mean you are consistent in communication just because you do it all the time.
If communication, which is a huge part of how we make it through life, is a problem, how can he hold down a solid relationship with a decent woman?
Inconsistency is a surefire sign to women that they are being strung along as well. Going back and forth from one behavior and emotion to another certainly doesn't make a woman feel secure or have confidence that a man is being 100 with them. From my personal experience, this has ALWAYS been the case.
If he knows exactly what he wants today, then he should want the same thing tomorrow whether that's good or bad. The problem with inconsistency is you never know WHAT the man really wants and at any given time it can switch up. I can only equate it to walking a tightrope on a gusty day, and while you have a safety net, it has holes in various spots throughout it.
Some of these guys are really great guys who are smart and have great personalities. You want to giv. them chances, butg the emotional roller coasters and merry-go-rounds are too much! No one wants to be taken for a ride. At some point when women see they are on one, they are going to want to get off no matter how much they like the ride operator.
Fellas, good or bad, we appreciate knowing one way or the other. We just respect the truth. Period.
Women take a chance and lay it on the line for you guys all the time. It's high time you started reciprocating. I know I have put my feelings out there, and it's not always been the result I wanted but it beat the back and forth that inconsistency causes.
Fellas, women have been through worse and bounced back. If you're not feeling us, it may sting momentarily but it's much better than finding out much later.
Women truly do appreciate solidity. Would you prefer a strong foundation to stand on or shaky ground? Which would YOU choose?
Now let's define consistent for those who DO know what they are doing.
Consistent
What stood out for me here was: constant, regular, uniform, steady, stable, even, unchanging, undeviating, unfluctuating; and in tune with, in line with, reconcilable with; not containing any logical contradictions.
inconsistency
[in-kuh n-sis-tuh n-see]
What stands out so much to me here is inconsistent action. Therein lies the problem! Inconsistency is hands down thee number one issue a lot of women I have spoken to about dating have complaints about! It goes hand in hand with the complaint about the art of conversation being lost.
I, for one cannot stand it when a man shifts gears back and forth. It makes me hesitant to take them seriously, hesitant to trust them and most certainly hesitant to commit to them. No woman walking this Earth has ever jumped to say she wants to hubby up an inconsistent man. Not one.
An inconsistent man speaks multitudes about other issues in his life.
He most definitely runs the risk of being inconsistent in other areas of importance.
For example, an inconsistent man poses a threat of being the type of man who can't consistently keep a job, pay the bills or keep food on the table.
These are basic everyday things in life.
A man who is not consistent in how he communicates or how frequently he communicates is another sore spot. Sporadic calls, random texts, or an lol under our pics doesn't mean you are consistent in communication just because you do it all the time.
If communication, which is a huge part of how we make it through life, is a problem, how can he hold down a solid relationship with a decent woman?
Inconsistency is a surefire sign to women that they are being strung along as well. Going back and forth from one behavior and emotion to another certainly doesn't make a woman feel secure or have confidence that a man is being 100 with them. From my personal experience, this has ALWAYS been the case.
If he knows exactly what he wants today, then he should want the same thing tomorrow whether that's good or bad. The problem with inconsistency is you never know WHAT the man really wants and at any given time it can switch up. I can only equate it to walking a tightrope on a gusty day, and while you have a safety net, it has holes in various spots throughout it.
Some of these guys are really great guys who are smart and have great personalities. You want to giv. them chances, butg the emotional roller coasters and merry-go-rounds are too much! No one wants to be taken for a ride. At some point when women see they are on one, they are going to want to get off no matter how much they like the ride operator.
Fellas, good or bad, we appreciate knowing one way or the other. We just respect the truth. Period.
Women take a chance and lay it on the line for you guys all the time. It's high time you started reciprocating. I know I have put my feelings out there, and it's not always been the result I wanted but it beat the back and forth that inconsistency causes.
Fellas, women have been through worse and bounced back. If you're not feeling us, it may sting momentarily but it's much better than finding out much later.
Women truly do appreciate solidity. Would you prefer a strong foundation to stand on or shaky ground? Which would YOU choose?
Now let's define consistent for those who DO know what they are doing.
Consistent
con·sist·ent
kənˈsistənt/
adjective
(of a person, behavior, or process) unchanging in achievement or effect over a period of time.
synonyms: constant, regular, uniform, steady, stable, even, unchanging, undeviating, unfluctuating; More
compatible or in agreement with something
synonyms: compatible with, congruous with, consonant with, in tune with, in line with, reconcilable with; not containing any logical contradictions.
What stood out for me here was: constant, regular, uniform, steady, stable, even, unchanging, undeviating, unfluctuating; and in tune with, in line with, reconcilable with; not containing any logical contradictions.
No contradictions. Unchanging. Unfluctuating. Stable. Constant.
If you ask any woman she would pick at least two of those adjectives to describe what she looks for in a relationship. If your behavior doesn't dictate any of these things, fellas, you're doing it wrong!
If you ask any woman she would pick at least two of those adjectives to describe what she looks for in a relationship. If your behavior doesn't dictate any of these things, fellas, you're doing it wrong!
